So at this point Mary is P R E G N A N T. It is too late for the motherly advice. This is not taking into consideration that she lost the right to have any input on his life a long time ago. I have compassion for her and admire that she is trying to turn her life around. But she lost a lot of rights and leeway a lot of mothers have. She needs to stop continuing making his life miserable and difficult. At this point the best for her to be supportive and be there for both of them when they need her. She was not a good mother then try to be a good grandmother. Life is giving her a second chance and she is not taking it.