I joined a new book club which I am enjoying. I have an issue though. One member is a speed reader. After every book is announced she will have it finished that evening. (We have 2 weeks to read it!) I recieved my book today and got a message in the chat! “Curious to see what everyone thinks of the ending? I hated it” every time!!! It makes me mad - I’m in the club to try and make friends and I have a problem with being too direct- so I’m hoping another group member will address it. Is this normal? She’s not spoiling it- but starting a book & knowing that the ending “has a twist” or “isn’t great” is so annoying.
We have a rule where you can’t talk about the book club book until the day of the meeting. In the chat specifically, but I enforce it when I’m with people and they start to bring it up in person (I lead). I sort of frame it like fight club. You can’t talk about it.
Since you’re trying to make friends maybe suggest that this line of thinking is still a spoiler for you and gives you pre conceived ideas about the book. Nicely suggest any thoughts on the book be held until the meeting day