I think thats the case with most people once you understand their struggles and background. Once you start analysing and understanding where the problems are coming from, you find it hard to hold people accountable since you understand where everything is coming from. One thing that helped me a lot is realising that everyone’s got a luggage behind and everyone can have reasons to be a bad person. And at the end, once you’re an adult it’s your own responsibility to deal with your luggage and clean it, even if it’s not your fault that it’s there. So even though there are tragic things happening to people, that doesn’t mean that they have a green card for anything. Everybody’s got shit. It’s a choice how you deal with that said shit