I know I will be crucified for pointing this out but all you need to be 90% there for being liked is be a white women and not be obviously trashy or crazy. This is probably due to audience demographics. As someone who watched season 4 of the other way and read the episode discussions after the fact the amount of leeway/benefit of the doubt Jen and Debbie got by the subreddits up until the tell-alls was absurd.