This is my opinion and I understand being concerned for your loved one or wanting clarity on a certain situation. But to flat out ask personal, disrespectful, and accusatory questions as soon as you sit down at Chili’s to meet for the first time, it’s wrong and unfair. It’s like some of these American families don’t think that the new fiancé is a person with feelings just like them. They’re already on edge because they’re meeting their fiancés family and they’re a country away from their own family, why interrogate them? It just sets a negative tone for the new relationship. And then the American fiancé just sits back and let’s it happen?
It’s contrived by production.
Yes, and also creative editing.
It’s easy to chop up someone’s sentence so something like, “You always hear about these romance scams where foreigners are using someone for a green card, but I can see how much you two love each other” ends up as “you always hear about these foreigners using someone for a green card” paired with a shot of the foreigner awkwardly staring (that might have been filmed 20 minutes prior to this conversation).
It’s also been confirmed that they film shots of everyone sitting at the table without talking, then splice them into a dinner conversation to make it look like an awkward silence or like one of the friends/family members dislikes something.