Honestly, most days I’m agreeing with what Danielle is saying when it comes to finances, but the most recent episode (13/11/23) when Danielle asks Yohan to pay half the rent, plus bills etc. I think was super unfair. She has an American job, which pays American wages. Yohan is/was working for Dominican wages.

When Yohan said if he contributes the same he will have nothing left for himself. And I agree with him (if these facts are true)

In my personal opinion, I think financial contributions should be split by % of income. My partner (33M) contributes more to our household because he earns more. If I (29F) contribute the same, I wouldn’t have any personal savings or extra money for myself. When I was earning more, I was contributing to the household more. It goes both ways…

    • ljlkm@alien.topB
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      1 year ago

      That’s his aspiration. Before he moved in with her, he lived with his family. I wouldn’t feel this way, but I can at least wrap my head around being mad that he’s working multiple jobs to rent an apartment she wants, while all his wants are dismissed. I wonder (maybe yes, maybe no) if he would feel differently if he were working two jobs to pay a mortgage instead of just rent. Maybe in his mind that would at least be building something.