I was just rewatching her story with Luis and LR and wad wondering if you think she expected Kelly to babysit because the child was terrible to Luis (who was horrible mind you) and could maybe be a handful…

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    Autistic and other disabled children aren’t “burdens.” It’s fair to say it’s Molly’s responsibility to show/teach Kelly how to care for her kid. It’s not unfair of Molly to expect Kelly to learn how to help provide some care for her child if they are in a committed relationship and especially if they are living together. It’s not appropriate to pass judgment on the behavior of any young child, let alone a disabled child for whom emotional dysregulation is likely a symptom of their disability. If Kelly doesn’t want to learn or provide any care, that’s fine, but that is a reasonable dealbreaker for the parent of a disabled kid to have. I’m not saying the partner should be expected to devote themselves full time to caregiving, but it’s a reasonable expectation for them to help sometimes.

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      I agree, though he’s just a boyfriend, not her husband so the level of care and attention Molly expects her BFs to provide to her and her children is obsurd, especially when we can’t see what she’s bringing to the table.

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        I’m not talking about casual boyfriends. I’m talking partners in serious, committed and live-in relationships. If someone isn’t demonstrating their ability and willingness to care as a serious committed partner, they’re not going to do it as a spouse either. I’m not saying people who don’t want to take on those responsibilities are “bad” people. I’m saying they likely aren’t compatible partners for parents of disabled kids.

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          This is the thing I think everyone can’t figure out about what happened. Like it seemed like Kelly was a good man and even moved, then there was some drama with Olivia, Cynthia and then Molly said Kelly wasn’t helping during her hysterectomy…it’s such a shift from it seeming like he was all in and doing well, then suddenly Molly isn’t happy…