I like the idea of a safe word and the concept behind it but would it work for real. I know that for some couples it would work but I feel like for more couples it wouldn’t. Like the idea of a safe word to me means"hey, you’re not being honest so be honest now". What’s to stop the person from just lying again even after the safe word was said.

  • FluffyPurpleBear@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    My partner and I already did this, but Oklahoma gave it a name. Honesty and communication are the two most important ingredients in a healthy relationship imo.

  • Maverick_1882@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    From a Kansan, I would never look to Oklahoma as the embodiment of truth. So, enough said…

    Oh, to answer your question, if someone is set on lying, they’ll double-down and continue to lie. Much like The Wizard in The Wizard of Oz, only when you pull back the curtain, can the truth be exposed (if you say that in Jason’s voice, it’s kind of spooky).

  • taffyowner@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I don’t think it’s a “hey I think your lying” it’s a “hey this is a safe space to let out how you really feel”

    Like if I’m being honest I do keep emotions and stress a little bottled up in my life and tell my wife I’m fine. If we implemented that it would be more of a “I’m stressed, worried, and don’t know what to do next” instead of an “I’m fine”