If it’s not a famous book, you may find some Goodreads reviews and if you’re lucky a Reddit post or two, but not vasts amount of online discussion like you’ll find about any passingly good series or movie.
And if you love a movie or a tv show, it is much easier to convince people in real life to also watch it, since it’s way less time consuming and not everyone even reads books, but most people watch movies.
I just think that this really sucks about reading books.
It doesn’t make me lonely, exactly. Or maybe I enjoy loneliness. I just don’t feel the pull to socialize about everything I do. Often it just makes my hobbies feel exhausting, tbh.
Yes. Just like I don’t feel the need to monetize all my hobbies (because then they aren’t hobbies they are jobs), I also don’t need to socialize all my hobbies. I do some things just for myself. I walk in the woods almost every day and that’s lonely too but I don’t think anyone would question that loneliness as a bad thing
(Well, to be fair, I do have my dogs with me in the woods. But usually I also have my dogs with me when I’m reading.)
I always like doing things on my own and then talking to others who also did that thing, about that thing. If that makes sense. Idk why lol.
You need a book club. Unless you’re friends are particularly book people, you’re not going to be having the same experiences with your reading. People are funny with reading books, we’re all over the place and we can only read so many at one time. If we don’t feel into it we’re not going to commit that time to it, but if you’re in a book club where people go just for that experience, It should work.
I get that, just giving another perspective. I’m happy to have my experiences only in my own head. It kind of makes it feel more special to me.
“Loneliness and solitude are two things not to get confused”