does anything come to mind?
romance can be subtle or a very slow-burn and doesn’t have to be the main part of the story.
any subgenre would do as long as it’s m/f and the male character is as i described in the title.
(preferably something that isn’t “a naked man on the cover” kind of book. it would be even better if it’s not ya, but it’s ok if you think it’s still well-written. also would love it if the female lead is interesting and complex but my focus is on the male lead right now.)
It’s young adult but The Mediator Series by Meg Cabot. Very sweet and romantic and the male ticks all above boxes