I lost any and all sympathy during the whole cheating thing. Asuelu cheated, but she includes the 10 times of him looking at paid Instagram nudes as “cheating” as well, and I noticed how she wouldn’t clarify those ten other times because she knows it sounds stupid.

I get some people consider it “cheating”, but if you consider it in the same ballpark as getting intimate with someone else you’re delusional.

Second, he had one maybe two one night stands it sounds like. 100% cheating, you have every right to be mad, he gives her a pass which is a dumb decision-- honestly the relationship should have been called then and there. But Kalani wasn’t just cheating, this woman was having a whole AFFAIR. I’d argue that’s way worse than whatever Asuelu was doing, and you just lost any credibility and sympathy at that point.

You can maybe come back from 1 cheating incident, MAYBE, if it’s a long relationship and you really both want to work thru it. But an AFFAIR is basically dating/being with someone else, youre having a whole other deep emotional and physical relationship with another human being, here’s no going back from that. That’s a 100% relationship killer. She basically did the deathblow for the relationship and there’s no excuses otherwise. She has just as much owning up to do as Asuelu.