I’ve seen people talk about actors and artists that had a terrible time.
My own would be Anne Rice. She wrote Interview with the Vampire after her young daughter died of Leukemia. Then her husband suddenly died of a brain hemorrhage. I suspect her Christian, anti-fanfic phase was a result of mental illness and manipulation from the publishers, although I don’t think she ever apologized.
Except this is the attitude of “racism would go away if we all just stopped talking about race”.
No, it wouldn’t. Because our culture is racist.
Ignoring the problem doesn’t make it go away, just like pretending gender isn’t a big deal doesn’t make gender roles go away.
Because that is the identity within our culture that is most comfortable for the person. Acknowledging that is not an advocation for the system, it’s harm reduction within the system.
And the first step to abolishing gender is disassociating it from sex.
Not to claim that you think differently, just expanding on that line.