I was about to pick up house in the Cerulean sea and a few of TJ klunes other books that I own and of course he’s problematic. It has to do with the 60s scoop that involved Native Americans and what horrible things happen to them. My father being a part of that as a Native American himself and a young teen when it happened. He basically used a traumatic time in history as inspiration for his story house in the Cerulean sea. Which is not okay and he’s coming out with a second book to that one next year. I don’t think the publishers should be going forward with this next book but of course they will cuz it’s going to make them money. Should I now tell people the talk about this book but he’s problematic and after that let them do their own research or not say anything?

  • merfaewit13@alien.topOPBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    A lot of people not me will tell you that you can’t do that at least that’s what I’ve been told a lot of times you can’t separate the two

    • minimalist_coach@alien.topBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      I agree, it’s hard to support someone that you think is a horrible human, that is why I actively try to stay ignorant about what they say and do in their personal lives. I limit my news and my social media which really helps. Sometimes it’s hard to avoid information, but I’ve been doing this for years so I’m pretty good at it. I didn’t even read your post, just the title.

      This may seem naive, but having been an activist for decades I’ve learned to filter what I choose to expose myself to and what I deem unimportant to stay current on. There is only so much empathy I have to give to the world so I choose to give it to a few select causes and simply ignore the rest. This was something I had to do to protect myself after getting very burnt out about 5 years into my activist journey.

        • minimalist_coach@alien.topBEnglish
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          10 months ago

          It takes practice. I’m a retired Life Coach and editing media was always a part of my programs. Like any other habit, there will be times when you feel you are doing it well and times when you fall back into old patterns. Your priorities will change over time as well, so just make choices that help you feel better as often as you can and over time it will become easier.

          • merfaewit13@alien.topOPBEnglish
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            10 months ago

            Will do and I think that happens to the best of us but if we stick to it things should get better