It happened with Kalani and Asuelu. It was mentioned to Danielle when Yohan wanted to move to the U.S. Now, it’s Manuel demanding it from Ashley.

I understand that it’s a cultural thing, but why do parents want to put this kind of stress on their children? I feel like it’s a tradition that’s been passed down and since they did it for their parents, it is just expected. Even just a grace period to help them get on their feet before they start sending $200 or $300 a month could alleviate the stress.

I’m from Canada and it’s extremely financially hard here, I couldn’t imagine sending money to anyone every month. I don’t know exactly how it is in the U.S., but I would think $300 is still a lot for anyone to send monthly. Not to mention, these people only have one source of income since the person coming can’t legally work until they get their green card. I know that it’s really a lack of communication on their end, but it really seems that the family is demanding as well, like it is incredibly toxic. Is this a normal thing or is it just exaggerated for T.V.?

  • bettybeaux@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    When I had this discussion with my OH about it he was surprised I didn’t give my mum money every month lol It’s cultural - for him where he’s from they simply dont have not a lot of money. Everybody pools together…as the oldest son there is an expectation on him to give money - his mum needs it. They don’t have a lot. Also there’s no pensions. It’s not a thing that exist where he’s from. As he put it- u don’t help the elders they die. My grandad also sent money back to barbados to his mum until the day she died for the exact same reason