It happened with Kalani and Asuelu. It was mentioned to Danielle when Yohan wanted to move to the U.S. Now, it’s Manuel demanding it from Ashley.

I understand that it’s a cultural thing, but why do parents want to put this kind of stress on their children? I feel like it’s a tradition that’s been passed down and since they did it for their parents, it is just expected. Even just a grace period to help them get on their feet before they start sending $200 or $300 a month could alleviate the stress.

I’m from Canada and it’s extremely financially hard here, I couldn’t imagine sending money to anyone every month. I don’t know exactly how it is in the U.S., but I would think $300 is still a lot for anyone to send monthly. Not to mention, these people only have one source of income since the person coming can’t legally work until they get their green card. I know that it’s really a lack of communication on their end, but it really seems that the family is demanding as well, like it is incredibly toxic. Is this a normal thing or is it just exaggerated for T.V.?

  • fight_me_for_it@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    The helping your wife is key. I had to stop dating middle class white dudes because I’d send my mom and brother money. All American born family here. But I did have to help my family out. So that also meant I couldn’t afford to do the things my white middle class friends who made the same amount of money as me did. So when it came to dating the white middle class guys, they seemed to have more of a problem with me sending my brother and mom money. Especially since I was sending my brother money while he was incarcerated.

    Then I got a Texican boyfriend. I mentioned my brother needed new shoes and I had to also help my mom, and actually had to fly home asap to see her because she had cancer. Texican shows up at my apartment with what he could afford $150. I didn’t even ask. But unlike previous boyfriends he didn’t question my sending family money.

    He understood because he would send money to his grandparents also. We eneded up breaking up because he decided to move back to West Texas tiny town to take care of his grandparents who raised him and I couldn’t imagine moving to a rural town so soon, again.

    He’s the ex all others ended up being secretly compared to.