I don’t dislike her or her husband, I’m just completely baffled by it. For example, if I was moving to another country to marry someone there and live there I’d be studying to learn the language. Especially if I’m not working all day - that would be my job.
You’re looking for logic where there isn’t any. Shes a nut but not the only one that doesn’t think the decision or pros/cons thru. Or try in any way to make their situation easier.