• sigillum_diaboli666@alien.topB
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    1 year ago

    My last relationship was with a Korean man. He used to always make fun of my “tummy”, so much I got to the point of wearing a t-shirt while we had sex. His nickname for me was “Angry”… Because I’d always be angry with him for treating me like crap - and yeah he used Korean & Asian cultural differences as cover. I am half-Asian myself so I get it, but at the same time, doesn’t make it less hurtful.

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      1 year ago

      People treat you the way you allow them to.

      Something is broken in a person who dates someone who “always makes fun” of them.

      I’m hoping you found your spine and will never tolerate someone like that again.

    • Bernice1979@alien.topB
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      1 year ago

      My fiancé is Chinese and the family are harsh man. I was having a glass of wine with them the other day and they asked me why my chest was so red as it was blushing. They have no filter. My fiancé is a teacher and would call his students useless to me at home, but he doesn’t make fun of my body and I’m still recovering from the birth of our son. If he made fun of my body, that would be crossing a line.

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        1 year ago

        You would think they would understand why your chest was red when asian flush is a thing that probably effects them.

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        1 year ago

        Learning this is all very interesting, thank you for sharing. Since I haven’t had much experience with Asian culture, i didn’t realize they are pretty blunt, this makes a lot of sense now that I look back. I’m really glad your partner isn’t making you feel bad, and I’m sorry that his family does 💜

        • SillyProfessional971@alien.topB
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          1 year ago

          My friend is Korean but her family is sooooo brutal to her. She’s on the bigger side & that’s all they acknowledge about her even though she’s a surgeon! It was crazy to me seeing it firsthand.

    • Summerisle7@alien.topB
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      1 year ago

      I’m sorry you dealt with that, that guy sounds like a real jerk. I’m glad he’s an ex!

    • That-Ad757@alien.topB
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      1 year ago

      If you say no and persons still calls you piggy why stay. They do not care and will not be there for you when you need them.