I briefly dated a guy like Rob (although he did have a bathroom) when I was 19. He was 30. (Yeah, yeah, I know - I was young, naive, and he lied about his age, so…)

Obviously, Sophie is older than I was at the time, but the age gap is similar, and I see a lot of my ex in Rob, especially with his reactions when he feels like Sophie is calling him out for his living conditions.

Guys like Rob are generally ashamed of where they are in life, but instead of doing something about it, they try to convince other people that they’re happy, confident, and successful. This tends to work best on younger girls, who don’t have a lot of experience with men, and thus have fewer expectations.

Rob knows that many (probably most) men his age (and honestly, even in their 20s) could provide Sophie with a much better standard of living. Whether he does it intentionally or not, his method of coping with this and trying to “protect” the relationship is to convince Sophie that she’s a “princess” or “spoiled” for wanting anything other than what he can provide her with.

Eventually, she will wise up and leave him. But he’s going to continue this pattern until he works on himself and begins to create a life that he can be proud of.

  • juandon_@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Wow! this was an amazing assessment of the situation. Appreciate your insight OP.

  • RestlessLadyBoss@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Agreed. Additionally, I don’t understand these two together. They don’t seem like a couple at all. No chemistry. Like they just met. When they sit next to each other they look like two adequately attractive strangers in the waiting room of a casting call. There’s usually a lot of emotional intimacy in couples who’ve had to be long distance and rely only on talking every day. I find this whole “couple” storyline to be suspect.

  • kinsho@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I feel like a lot of women here dated guys like Rob. Which is why there’s so much vitriol here against him.

  • lovemoonsaults@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    And that’s why the Robs of the world, have to prey on women from other countries as well. They have burned through every Junior Collage campus around them and none of the young women in their areas will put up with their squatters quarters they have setup and limited life goals.

    I’m glad you grew up and out of that phase, fam. I like that you only briefly dated that loser, I hope you found a good one after suffering that fool <3

  • gb2ab@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    fuck. you hit the nail right on the head. and the same thing applies to jibri to some extent. like wannabe baller failure to launch