Id like to point out that most of the things Bojack does “right” make assumptions about other characters that Bojack has no right to assume.

The Nixon scene he was so sure he could convince whoever he needed to convince (I forget, Turtletaub?) that he ignored being told no and did it anyways, crossing a clear boundary.

Eddie’s flying was a clear trauma issue that Bojack is not qualified to handle (even if he had Eddie’s consent to do so) and was told very clearly that Eddie didn’t fly. It was maybe less invasive because he didn’t directly push Eddie but he put him in a scenario where he would fly, a direct crossing of Eddie’s boundaries

To add to that, Bojack and Sarah Lynn went to see Penny because Bojack wanted to see how she was handling things, not because he wanted to offer any sort of apology or closure to Penny. Same deal with Sarah Lynn going on the bender in the first place, letting Todd stay at his place, etc etc. Bojack has shown a clear pattern of assuming he knows best for everyone else and making the decisions in contradiction to their boundaries