That’s how I got into it, too! (Though I like The Other Way because it helps me appreciate America.)

I’ll be honest and likely get downvoted…but here goes:

Nikki, in regards to the pressure for sex, is acting more like the male of a heteronormative relationship. This by itself isn’t really the problem; rather, it’s that Nikki is dating an Eastern European man who is likely somewhat traumatized by the relationship (she’s been talking about how he won’t give her oral since finding out she’s trans), and who she regularly emasculates or tries to control (which is bad given his native culture is based on a certain amount of machismo).

Also, she changed his name. Wtf.