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Cake day: November 29th, 2023

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  • I feel like I’m going against the grain here, but hear me out…

    Is there some editing tricks at play here? While I don’t agree with his lack of respect and can see he appears to bring little if anything to the table, Ashley appears to mirror many of those toxic and disrespectful behaviours.

    Translating for her friends, but with personal bias, twisting his words to make them fit with her own version of events, calling her friend while they were driving, to complain about him while he was in the car. He may not speak English fluently but I guarantee he knows a lot more than she’s aware, so he likely was completely aware so was bitching about him but unable to fully understand exactly what was being said, that seems very patronising and insulting to me (I feel if you need to vent, out of respect for your partner surely you’d be able to hold it together until a time you could speak while your partner isn’t in ear shot)

    The whole sending his family money thing, definitely a conversation that needed to be had and explicitly agreed upon by both parties prior to him arriving given he’s unable to work - BUT surely in the time she’s known him, the time she’s spent in Ecuador she was aware of that as a cultural norm AND doesn’t he have two sons? So he should be sending money home at a minimum each month for them. These are things you would assume she was across prior to them even considering the K1.

    They seem incredibly dysfunctional and toxic, both need to do work internally before committing to marrying each other or anyone