Charlotte is basically saying that a person can’t fall in love without encouragement of some sort, and that she thinks Jane needs to encourage Bingley more. The gratitude or vanity comes from someone liking you; the “not safe to leave any to itself” is that an affection can’t be safely left without encouragement if a person wants it to bloom.
Charlotte is basically saying that a person can’t fall in love without encouragement of some sort, and that she thinks Jane needs to encourage Bingley more. The gratitude or vanity comes from someone liking you; the “not safe to leave any to itself” is that an affection can’t be safely left without encouragement if a person wants it to bloom.