After reading through some of the comments, the biggest turn off for me would be automatically discounting someone as a partner for liking a book you despise. I mean, sure, there are the obvious political red flags, but generalizing someone’s entire personality based on linking a piece of art that you don’t like speaks to a lack of nuance and capacity for empathy, and also a lack of curiosity.
I don’t like metal music, but my husband likes it. I try to understand why he likes it, and I have found a few bands that I can actually like over the years. He is the same with my indie music. So we have both grown as people. Imagine being so set in your tastes and preferences that you would not attempt to understand or extend yourself slightly for someone else?
No, I could not disagree more. There isn’t just one way to enjoy a book. You can enjoy the ideas or the voice of the narrator, or the narrative itself. Lots of ways. Same with music.
But yes, please go on limiting your life experiences by eliminating people from your life that don’t see art the same way you do.