I strongly recommend watching the show if she has asked you to. I know life is busy but the episodes are only about 23 minutes each, so you could watch one or two a day without it cutting into life too much. If you’re really pressed for time, maybe watch while doing your skincare routine or while cooking or something? She clearly wants to connect with you through the show. By watching it and talking about the show together, you may give her the opportunity to talk about her own struggles too.

Even if it doesn’t lead to any deep convos about her mental health, watching the show and discussing it together is an opportunity to create a shared experience. When I was a teen, I had a difficult relationship with my mum (she didn’t understand my struggles with mental health at all), but in my late teens we started watching shows that I liked together and it made our relationship so much closer. I would introduce her to any piece of media that I really loved, and even though she didn’t care for all of it, she engaged because it mattered to me.

One addendum: season 1 isn’t really the same tone as the later seasons. My mum didn’t like season 1 (she got actively MAD about the Vincent Adultman arc lmao) but got more into the show as it went on (although she never liked Todd hahah). Watch season 1, but don’t form your opinion of the show based on it, because the tone really shifts and the story gets more emotionally and thematically complex with every subsequent season. My parents both watched it with me a few years ago at my insistence, and ended up really liking it. My dad related to Bojack’s experiences with mental health, especially with his internal monologue in the episode “Stupid Piece of Shit.” I think that any adult watching can find something to connect to in the narrative. It’s such a rich text, and I’m sure that if you give it a try, you will take something valuable away from it!

I always assumed it was in her things from the nursing home. Bojack never looked through them until after she was gone, so he wouldn’t have seen/registered it (remember how he doesn’t notice Hollyhock’s envelope in Beatrice’s things until after both of them are gone?). She clearly remained obsessed with her weight until the day she died, so I don’t think it’s a stretch to believe that she could have been taking it in the nursing home, and while sneaking it into Hollyhock’s coffee.