I’ve been trying to introduce my SO to reading. I love books and I wish I could share in that experience with her. Unfortunately she doesn’t read and hates having to do it. She is vehement in that books are boring because there’s nothing to watch and that using her imagination is too much work. Her reading comprehension or vocabulary is not the issue - she’s intelligent and a fast learner but denies these things. This hasn’t been a serious contention between us and at the end of the day I can enjoy books on my own. But I was wondering if anyone has been successful in changing someone’s perspective on books, or if I’m probably not going to achieve anything.
No and I would never try. I think the only time it could be successful is if a person used to enjoy reading and just doesn’t feel like they have the time as an adult.
Reading is like any other activity some people like it and others don’t and never will. I’m sure you’ve had friends in the past who were passionate about an activity you had no interest in, maybe it was sports, hunting, Dungeons and Dragons, or any other activity that they loved spending time doing and sharing with others, but it just didn’t interest you. If they had kept trying to push you into sharing the activity, chances are it eventually got in the way of your friendship.
I’m an avid reader, my husband isn’t and we’ve been married over 30 years. The only time I’ve seen him read books is when he needs to learn a new programming language, he buys a couple books on the topic and skims them, pulls the info he needs from it, keeps the books around until he masters the program then dumps them.
We have learned that we have couple things and individual things and although we will occasionally participate in the others individual activities, we know that we will make the other grumpy if we try to get the other to participate in things they don’t enjoy. We share the highlights of our individual activities and that’s as far as we take it.