Honestly, most days I’m agreeing with what Danielle is saying when it comes to finances, but the most recent episode (13/11/23) when Danielle asks Yohan to pay half the rent, plus bills etc. I think was super unfair. She has an American job, which pays American wages. Yohan is/was working for Dominican wages.
When Yohan said if he contributes the same he will have nothing left for himself. And I agree with him (if these facts are true)
In my personal opinion, I think financial contributions should be split by % of income. My partner (33M) contributes more to our household because he earns more. If I (29F) contribute the same, I wouldn’t have any personal savings or extra money for myself. When I was earning more, I was contributing to the household more. It goes both ways…
I don’t believe in gendered binaries in terms of labor, everybody choose to do whatever you want— that being said her shaming him for not financially contributing saying “YOU’RE the wife”, was not only derogatory towards women, but an absolutely unhinged thing to say to someone you love. If someone tries to belittle you as a person when you argue, instead of focusing on the issue at hand, sever ties. Dip out.