Honestly, most days I’m agreeing with what Danielle is saying when it comes to finances, but the most recent episode (13/11/23) when Danielle asks Yohan to pay half the rent, plus bills etc. I think was super unfair. She has an American job, which pays American wages. Yohan is/was working for Dominican wages.

When Yohan said if he contributes the same he will have nothing left for himself. And I agree with him (if these facts are true)

In my personal opinion, I think financial contributions should be split by % of income. My partner (33M) contributes more to our household because he earns more. If I (29F) contribute the same, I wouldn’t have any personal savings or extra money for myself. When I was earning more, I was contributing to the household more. It goes both ways…

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    10 months ago

    They both suck.

    Danielle is, as far as we know, hiding a full ass bankruptcy from Yohah. She lied to him about going to the US, she’s in the DR because she is bankrupt. Meanwhile she keeps spending money above her means somehow. Clearly she promised him things and keeps forgetting about all the shit she said. She also keeps pretending like this is true love when he has said in the show that he wanted an American wife to either go to the US as promised or she’s paying for everything.

    Yohan is terrible because he just wanted the green card or money, didn’t get either, just dug a financial hole for himself and is now scamming woman on FB according to Danielle. He has 0 feelings toward this woman at this point, I doubt he even had any to start with.

    I’ve said this 100x, they tried to play each other and played themselves.

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    10 months ago

    For those of you that defend Danielle, why don’t we hear anything about her child, a son I believe. Here she is, turning down a much higher pension for leaving early, racking up thousands of dollars that went unpaid and hardly ever mentioning her child. If she’s such a good person, what explanation does she have for not seeing her own flesh and blood?

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    10 months ago

    She wants him to have nothing left so he has to ask her for $. This is about power and control, not finances.

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    10 months ago

    Why are people glossing over the fact that is what she promised him, that she will take care of him. As far as I could tell Yohan doesn’t lie, he’s been pretty much upfront about his needs. The whole stealing her Credit Card thing doesn’t make sense if he knew her PIN number. He got fed up with her lies and straight up told her, she needs to hold up her agreement or he’s out. So the recent ep it’s baffling that she threatens to kick him out because he only wants her money which is what he’s been telling her. Also if Yohan was not allowed to take anything because she paid for everything also solidified that she was in fact his sugar mama but she’s now too broke to keep with the lifestyle.

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    10 months ago

    You know - first of all, didn’t he quit working? Or did he start up something and I missed it? (Totally possible) but -

    At this point he is fully aware of what she expects from a partner in terms of financial contributions. If what she is laying out doesn’t work for him, kick rocks.

    What she did when coming down - the bait and switch of she’s not really gonna take him to ISA - was complete BS and was wrong. But you’re only a victim for so long. He is volunteering now.

    Her too … he has said no nope nada. She needs to just say that’s it I’m done. They both do. Ugh.

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    10 months ago

    Maybe he should learn English if he wants success working in America, not many job opportunities for no college degree, no skills, no experience and no english, it’s hard for people WITH all those qualities to get jobs in America. For coming to the US to be his master plan he’s really dropped the ball on preparations. I don’t think he will have much luck ever getting a visa now especially with the footage from the show.

    I bet Danielle is relieved she didn’t bring his ungrateful a$$ to the US now, I think with enough effort, devotion and work on their relationship and trust issues she’d have gotten the visa and moved back eventually but he showed his true colors. Her whole NY is too expensive excuse is true but there’s a million other places to live where the COL is less. Great job Yohan.

    He is a shining example of why a large quantity of Americans think foreigners just use citizens for green cards.

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    10 months ago

    EDIT. SPOILER. HES A PIECE OF SHIT LOL he cheated on her and scammed other women out of money 😂😂

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    10 months ago

    1000% agree it should be based on % of income, $50 to someone who only makes a few hundred a week is very different than $50 to someone who makes a few thousand a week.

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    10 months ago

    I don’t believe in gendered binaries in terms of labor, everybody choose to do whatever you want— that being said her shaming him for not financially contributing saying “YOU’RE the wife”, was not only derogatory towards women, but an absolutely unhinged thing to say to someone you love. If someone tries to belittle you as a person when you argue, instead of focusing on the issue at hand, sever ties. Dip out.

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    10 months ago

    This!!! While I agree he should contribute she’s being unrealistic. She said he agreed to $75000 pesos a month; in the DR that’s around $1,320 USD the average salary in DR is $800 USD ……

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      10 months ago

      Oh my god, I didn’t even do the math for it. That’s even worse now! And she asked him to pay bills, food etc… god that’s just so crazy