I didn’t start watching 90DF until the pandemic and I binged it while I worked from home, so now I’m rewatching everything and noticing and remembering things I hadn’t before. For some reason, I thought it was impossible to bring kids over with you on the K1 since so many parents have left their kids on this show, but rewatching, I’m noticing that a few people did bring a kid over with them. Is it up to the US government whether or not they can bring their kids or what?
People leave their children because it is very hard on a child to leave everything they know to come here and then having to learn English as well. Kids don’t get to just hang out at home (like adults) to get adjusted, they are basically forced into school and that in itself it’s hard to process. Sometimes the parent wants to be better adjusted in order to receive their child once they are able to come.
But it’s not hard to be abandoned by your mother and the kid’s life can be put on pause and then uprooted anyway depending on how it goes.
Have you ever lived that experience yourself? I’m speaking as a child that stayed behind a year in. Drive country before my mom brought me to this country. Taking me with her when she first left wasn’t a good decision. I appreciated staying behind as it gave me a time to process leaving the rest of my family. My mom was more stable by the time I made it here and made the transition a lot easier. Things like figuring out schools, health insurance, housing, community to rely on and other things that we take for granted when we live in a country we are used to navigating, are important before uprooting children.