I know this is probably a common topic. For me, I’m not sure if it’s a “trope” or just totally misinformed writing, but it’s how many authors approach alcoholism. Some examples are Girl on the Train and The House Across the Lake, among HUNDREDS. If anyone else here has struggled with alcoholism, you know it’s not just "i woke up after downing an entire bottle of whiskey but was able to shower, down a cup of coffee, and solve a murder. "
Tamora Pierce’s YA books play with this. Her first character is a girl who becomes a knight and hates girly stuff. But in the third book she starts learning to embrace it. It’s a magic fantasy world, so there’s certain types of magic you can do with “women’s tools”. The men, of course, don’t take it seriously but there’s little more dangerous than a woman with a piece of string in her hands