I saw someone defending the use of poopy rag and urine, saying she didn’t do HeR rEaSeArCh and doesn’t respect Indian culture. Implying Indian culture is… known for their contaminated washrags and spray bottle of urine? Proving wildly ignorant of Indian culture in the pursuit of insulting Kimberly. Any valid point she makes is twisted to fit this decided “ignorant American” and “stupid tarot card woman” narrative.

People get blinded by their hate of (usually) women on this show. They lose all nuance or critical thought. I dislike some of the cast, but I can admit where they show strengths, and when they’re right about something. There’s a pervasive pick-me/self-loathing/misogynist energy about. This weird hivemind joy over tearing down everything a person does.

I see this a ton with Mary, too. Brandon is a sensitive, innocent cinnamon roll, and Mary manipulated him into making a baby. And she should deal with the stress and financial burden because he “bought the house.” I’m SO tired of hearing that lol. There’s a baseline effort both people have to put forward. Push and pull, but don’t make your pregnant wife do the heavy lifting because you’re having second thoughts. I can’t accept that. Can’t work? Study the damn language, my guy. Do housework. Be there. Put any effort in. It’s not acceptable to give nothing, even if you’re struggling. He has a family now that depends on him, and he has to step up.

Mary has major issues, but viewers decided she is a one-dimensional villain who deserves only the worst. People complained when they (she) rushed into motherhood, then simultaneously complained when she hesitated rushing into marriage. Do they want her to triple down on bad choices for the sake of consistency? I’ve seen multiple people blame her solely for the baby as if Brandon didn’t contribute or know better. I can’t take that level of stupid.

I wrote a novel, but I have a lot of feelings on the topic. Lol