Why I think he is emotionally abusive:

  1. He doesn’t translate everything as he should and only translates in a manner that suits his situation and needs.

  2. Omits essential information all the time.

  3. Right before the wedding he decides to break up because she confided in her parents. But it’s okay when he does the same and turns everyone against her. Who runs to their mommy after there’s been a fight with a partner and talks shit about them to their entire family?

4.He always has to have the upper hand: Threatens to leave Kimberly or asks her to leave in every fight, Whenever he is asked to make a compromise - “Am I your servant?” “I’m not your servant” wth does that even mean?

  1. In effect he has entirely isolated her from his family and is trying to isolate her from her own family too.

  2. Straight up lied about the family situation and “wifely duties”.

  3. No safe space for Kimberly to go to, no one to confide in

Controlling someone in that manner and stripping away their identity bit by bit is absolutely not okay. I say this not because Kimberly is expected to make compromises, but because she is being expected to keep quiet about things that bother her and change the way she thinks. The situation is classic 101 guide in how to break someone’s spirit and make them complacent.

  • nettiemaria7@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Imo she is at least partially responsible for the language barrier. She knew she was moving in w family. After seeing her response to the apartment - screaming about trim w gaps which Was done correctly to allow for the joining trim (ie on bottom meeting w vertical door trim) was ridiculous. I did not see him pitting them against her. She brought that on herself.

    Imagine - they are all in their usual household atmosphere - and all of a sudden / a screeching ranting woman arrives yelling at the other family member. Pretty sure they came to their own conclusion.

    Did she expect him to translate from everyone forever? That would be exhausting. She should have downloaded babbel for the year she was waiting to go.

    But now - If her reasoning for her behavior is she thought they were going to live separately above parents - then I can see a tantrum.

    Was there Really have that big of an omission?

    Golly she (they) should have just skipped the wedding.

    • _Bogey_Lowenstein_@alien.topBEnglish
      1·
      1 year ago

      Yeah the trim looked like shit but what’s worse is the bathroom was in front of a window and had no door. Like it was pretty bad.