Why I think he is emotionally abusive:
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He doesn’t translate everything as he should and only translates in a manner that suits his situation and needs.
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Omits essential information all the time.
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Right before the wedding he decides to break up because she confided in her parents. But it’s okay when he does the same and turns everyone against her. Who runs to their mommy after there’s been a fight with a partner and talks shit about them to their entire family?
4.He always has to have the upper hand: Threatens to leave Kimberly or asks her to leave in every fight, Whenever he is asked to make a compromise - “Am I your servant?” “I’m not your servant” wth does that even mean?
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In effect he has entirely isolated her from his family and is trying to isolate her from her own family too.
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Straight up lied about the family situation and “wifely duties”.
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No safe space for Kimberly to go to, no one to confide in
Controlling someone in that manner and stripping away their identity bit by bit is absolutely not okay. I say this not because Kimberly is expected to make compromises, but because she is being expected to keep quiet about things that bother her and change the way she thinks. The situation is classic 101 guide in how to break someone’s spirit and make them complacent.
I’m Indian born and grown up in Canada, my parents are immigrants. My mom always told me we kids from North America are very honest and forthright whereas Indian kids lie and deceive a lot. I didn’t believe it as all the Indians from India that I met were so kind, polite, humble, etc but after a bad experience with my cousin (mentioned in another comment) now I know my mom was right.
When a country has ver rigid social rules that affect not only an individual but the entire family one has strong inclination to prevaricate.
Well it does seem that Indian women are brainwashed to believe that it will always be the woman’s fault if Indian men lied to their partner. It’s the foreign woman’s fault and she should have done her research. It was Jenny’s fault for ruining Sumit’s secret wife’s life because she didn’t Google if Some meet was married. I wonder if Google will explain that every man in India lies and if you find yourself willing to marry one, they will hide all his wives and concubines. And will Google explain you’ll be a slave to his parents. After all, he’s too good to wipe anyone’s ass!!
I’m from the UK and my parents are Pakistani immigrants. My mum says the EXACT same thing. That British kids are ‘dumb’ in comparison that the people back home are very shrewd and cunning.