I understand that there are aspects of culture that needed explaining but the real question is, did she make a proactive effort instead of relying all the time?

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    She thinks India and TJ go well with her ‘mystical, white hippy’ witch garbage motif. She’s lazy, entitled and desperate needs therapy.

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    Scripted for the show. She’s lived there for a year. I’m sure she knows what to do.

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    She was deadset on marrying dude from the start. Why didn’t she take the time to learn and understand his culture and the traditions that come with it?

    When we got together, my husband made it their mission to research everything there is to know and took a dive head first into the Indian culture. We got court married in 2020, but are planning our 2024 wedding, and the first thing they asked was how each ceremony is done and why, as well as protocol. We’ve been together for almost 5 years, and they still ask questions and are curious about things, and I’m always happy to answer. The first time they met my parents, my mom made Indian food the whole week we were at their house. My husband joyfully ate and asked how each dish was made, and makes requests to this day whenever we see my mom! We also watch Bollywood films together all the time.

    Its really not that hard to just ask and research. She wants things spoon fed to her tbh. If she wanted to, she would. She just sees TJ as an accessory to her “spiritual” side.

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    Tbf, his family doesn’t follow the average rituals and is part of a slightly more regimented offset religion. Even other Indian people have commented on this.

    Also, every Indian guy on this show is the worst possible liar and inattentive shmuck that I’ve ever seen.

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    You’d think if you were planning a wedding in another country, you would educate yourself on the customs so you knew what to expect. Or errrehmmm read it in the cards 🙄

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    I find it a bit strange how she lived in India for a year and knew for many months that she would be getting married in Indian tradition but hasn’t done basic research on the culture and it’s traditions beforehand. This screams low effort to me and her behaviour at her wedding reeked of victimhood.

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    I’m tired of people blaming her husband. My friend was in a traditional Indian wedding to marry a woman he loved. He researched and learned every aspect of it, and when he had questions asked his future in laws. As a outsider it was the most fun wedding I’ve been to and he explained everything to us.

    This chick is just a shitty person who doesn’t really care about her spouse at all.

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    I’m on Kim’s side here. Ppl are just blindly assuming she didn’t research any of this, not taking into consideration that research is only going to give you the overview of the ceremony itself. She wanted to know what was being said. I don’t blame her, it’s her own wedding ceremony! I’d want to know what was happening, too.

    I find it super odd that so many ppl would be ok with not understanding what’s being said at their own wedding.

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    She’s making an effort though. She straight up says that she wants to know what’s happening so she can be fully immersed in it. Also because it’s important to TJ she doesn’t want to just go through the motions.

    There’s a lot wrong with her, but this ain’t it

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    I think she sees it as she isn’t really marrying the culture but the man. Oh, she’s wrong, but that is the feeling I get.