I’ll go with the low-hanging fruit: Mein Kampf. I’ve read it, cover to cover. As a piece of propaganda, it’s good. As an example of good writing? Absolutely not (though I will admit I have only read it in translation). Oh, and the whole fascist, racist, and generally shitty worldview of the author that he infuses into the text. And the fact that the author is literally Hitler. You 5-star that book? You’re a Nazi. Period. And as a Jewish person, I don’t look too kindly on them.

  • wegsleepregeling@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    If the person is a woman, it’s not a red flag at all. In fact it’s likely quite green for me, because I know she’s in to kink/BDSM but just has had a poor introduction or an otherwise crap pop culture idea about it, perhaps even one or more terrible past dominant/top partners. With her interest, it’ll be easy to demonstrate safe, consent-forward, empowering, healthy kink/BDSM as a dominant/top. It wouldn’t take long for her to recognize how terrible that story is.

    Consent forward kink/BDSM practices include immediate and extensive communication about interests and scenes, and actual negotiation, before anything actually happens. If that turns her off, I’ll walk, but in my experience it’s never turned anyone off. Quite the opposite. Experienced kink women know to expect that, and neophytes immediately understand that this is the way it’s supposed to be.

    (Still, I upvoted your choice, because for a woman seeking a man this is a massive red flag, and a male/dominant who loves that story is unlikely to ever be willing to learn/change.)

    • RiotSloth@alien.topBEnglish
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      1 year ago

      I’m not sure I agree that just because someone has 50 Shades means they’re into BDSM to be honest. But, it’s the ‘rated it five stars’ part that would bother me, not the fact that they have it! 😃

      • wegsleepregeling@alien.topBEnglish
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        1 year ago

        I hear what you’re saying here. Obviously (or perhaps not) I wouldn’t just act on assumptions. Any kink/BDSM needs to be discussed and negotiated. It’s a pretty good sign if they give it five stars that a person is at least kink-curious.

        Thanks for adding to the thread :)