I know a south Asian woman who dated a guy for a few years who’s dad was pretty racist towards non-south-Asians, so she hid the relationship from him for quite a while.
The plan she came up with, with her mom’s help, was to slow-roll the roll out of the relationship over a few years. Mom knew everything and started planting seeds with dad, talking about love is love, she wants her daughter to be happy etc etc
When dad was finally introduced to the boyfriend he was relieved, given the hints and work that had been put in he thought his daughter was gay.
In these patriarchal cultures sometimes you have to protect yourself, even if it means not doing the things that are “most true” to yourself.
I know a south Asian woman who dated a guy for a few years who’s dad was pretty racist towards non-south-Asians, so she hid the relationship from him for quite a while.
The plan she came up with, with her mom’s help, was to slow-roll the roll out of the relationship over a few years. Mom knew everything and started planting seeds with dad, talking about love is love, she wants her daughter to be happy etc etc
When dad was finally introduced to the boyfriend he was relieved, given the hints and work that had been put in he thought his daughter was gay.
In these patriarchal cultures sometimes you have to protect yourself, even if it means not doing the things that are “most true” to yourself.