Honestly - if my husband: -lied to my about my role in the marriage until immediately after the marriage -let his family ice me out -completely disregards my feelings -disregards the fact that I am depressed & tells me it’s a personal problem -gaslight the shit out of me every time I tried to talk about my feelings
I would probably scream too. I hear ya Kimberly! I’m starting to feel manic for her
Kimberly was aware of this, she even asked TJ if she would be expected to do the house manager role and he lied and told her no.
Why are so many people ignoring that this happened?
Yeah. She knew what she was getting into and when she asked questions he omitted facts (lied). When she asked more questions he just did his stupid cheesy toothy smile and cocked his head sideways. And again deflected. She asked. He just didn’t answer. And she had been there before. He probably most likely as per usual omitted things once again or painted things in such a light so she would be okay with it.
Both are to blame. Him constantly omitting truths and deflecting and her thinking she can go into a family with her American ways and get her way. She knew what she was getting into (on the family level, how tight knit it is and how living arrangements and things would be.) She thought she could have it her way and has now ran into a wall and she can’t handle it. She is definitely not blameless in all of this.
TJ shoulda just married a Hindu girl. His brother is smart in saying when he gets married he is marrying a Hindu girl. She knows the program and will hit the ground running.
Yeah good points. It was naive she took him at his word cause he does seem to have been lying or withholding info all throughout the relationship and he definitely should’ve just married a Hindu girl, I’m genuinely confused why he didn’t…