Honestly - if my husband: -lied to my about my role in the marriage until immediately after the marriage -let his family ice me out -completely disregards my feelings -disregards the fact that I am depressed & tells me it’s a personal problem -gaslight the shit out of me every time I tried to talk about my feelings
I would probably scream too. I hear ya Kimberly! I’m starting to feel manic for her
Meanwhile TJ and his family don’t have to understand American culture…and don’t even try. Just understand OURS.
That’s what happens when you agree to marry into someone else’s family and culture in another country. You don’t want that? Then find another partner.
I’ve said it many times before and I’ll say it again! People just love to think that their own situation will be different because nOt AlL mEn FrOm iNdIa are the same!! lol these are what I like to call overly positive personalities. And because they refuse to see red flags in any situation they always get themselves in deep shit and then cry to reddit, “But why me!!! I thought it would be different for me!!!”
Pretty sure if you are in someone else’s country, it’s on you to adapt. Kimberly is insufferable….how anyone can defend her is crazy. She knew what she was getting into.
It’s not fair that he lied to her about his expectations then expect her to adapt.
I agree that he is also to blame in this whole mess. No one’s hands are clean here. But how did Kimberly still marry TJ after she realized the families expectations? She is either stupid or crazy.
That’s a one-sided view if I ever heard one. It’s called we are all humans and if you want someone to understand your culture you should be also willing to do the same. Relationships are two way streets.