I support Shariyah’s overall aim of evaluating Sarper’s suitability for a committed, exclusive, long-term relationship. Marriage, as Shakinah describes it.

But I feel as though she’s filling her weekend with some overly picky critiques. I mean, if you really want to focus on the DMs, and especially with this man I think that’s not a bad idea, then maybe give the collection of empty liquor bottles a pass? The one thing Shakinah is able to handle without you is complaining about Sarper’s decor.

And I think Shariyah knows that it would be a good idea to pay attention to how Sarper treats Shakinah. You don’t have to infer or project to see the deficiencies in that. He’s right there doing it. So maybe focus more on that.

I know she thinks she’s helping Shakinah by arguing with Sarper about some of these things. And I suppose if you look at Shakinah’s relationship history and her tendency to avoid conflict, that might be good, as well. But I just keep thinking it’s taking up a lot of time if they’re only spending one weekend together.* And so is walking out.

*Like the manufactured urgency in the Hoarders show when people are moving like molasses on a three-story Victorian full of stuff and somehow they only have the crew for two days.

  • rainbowonthemoon@alien.topBEnglish
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    11 months ago

    Keeping the liquor bottles in Turkey isn’t weird or connected to memories necessarily lol. Many people do it. I liked collecting bottles too, not anymore though since I became more minimalist

    • PlayOldWhiteLadyCard@alien.topOPBEnglish
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      11 months ago

      I don’t collect them all, but I have several unusually pretty wine bottles and a collection of beer bottles that are kind of unique one way or another, including bottles of American beer that are marked “imported” because I bought them in the UK.

      I wouldn’t be likely to look at Sarper’s collection and immediately think it was tied to the past. I might think it was a bit juvenile or bachelor-y, but I can’t look at my own decor and judge that that’s a character flaw or something.

      It was like Shariyah was trying to find things to complain about - - at first she thought they were full of alcohol and his bar was too extensive, and then she had to figure out a reason that empty bottles were a red flag, when I still maintain she could employ her time there better.