I support Shariyah’s overall aim of evaluating Sarper’s suitability for a committed, exclusive, long-term relationship. Marriage, as Shakinah describes it.
But I feel as though she’s filling her weekend with some overly picky critiques. I mean, if you really want to focus on the DMs, and especially with this man I think that’s not a bad idea, then maybe give the collection of empty liquor bottles a pass? The one thing Shakinah is able to handle without you is complaining about Sarper’s decor.
And I think Shariyah knows that it would be a good idea to pay attention to how Sarper treats Shakinah. You don’t have to infer or project to see the deficiencies in that. He’s right there doing it. So maybe focus more on that.
I know she thinks she’s helping Shakinah by arguing with Sarper about some of these things. And I suppose if you look at Shakinah’s relationship history and her tendency to avoid conflict, that might be good, as well. But I just keep thinking it’s taking up a lot of time if they’re only spending one weekend together.* And so is walking out.
*Like the manufactured urgency in the Hoarders show when people are moving like molasses on a three-story Victorian full of stuff and somehow they only have the crew for two days.
I kinda feel like Shekinah is a grown ass adult, and she knows exactly what Sarper is, red flags and all. It’s not her sisters job to make Shekinah see the light- it’s her job to be there for her when it all falls apart. Once someone has their heart set on someone, there’s not much anyone can say to change their mind
Well, I agree. But I thought Shariyah had said that based on Shakinah’s romance track record, she wanted to prevent her from making yet another similar mistake if possible. Not her job, and not likely to succeed, but something loved ones often try to do.