What would you do if you have parents toxic like Beatrice and butterscotch horseman?
I happened to have parents that would take 20 sleeping pills try to “suicide” when things don’t go their way. Growing up, I realized where the low confidence, insecurity and pessimism are coming from. I’ve fought really hard to be happy and thanks to people that I’ve met in my life.
So I’m wondering, if any of you that watched the show grew up in a toxic family and how do you find your happiness? For me, it’s isolation and let go. It’s sad knowing that it would never be a family but you just can’t change people.
Survive. And be better.
Cuddlywiskers esque aphorism aside. That genuinely is the move. It’s not as easy as a quick quote but that mantra and continuing to strive towards it by bettering your own life and realising you can’t save them from drowning but you can save yourself from drowning with them. No matter how much it hurts as you have attachments to them. Is really the only way to win.
Bojack couldn’t do that and let the glory of fame and several distractions force him to embrace his worse traits. But he was better than them in a lot of ways.
Also therapy. Like yeah cliche here I know but unironically if you have no good ppl in your life to talk to in order to progress. Professional help when you can find it is best.
cynicism and nihilism are liberating.
My parents were kind of like that. Better in some ways, worse in others.
What did I do? I moved 3,000 miles away from them and built a new life far far away from them. I got married and had a baby and by the time that baby was in elementary school, I had cut my parents off completely. I tried for the first few years of my child’s life to force ourselves into their life. I came to a point where I just stopped trying to force my parents to be grandparents to my child. My kid is 15 and doesn’t even know what they look like or sound like, and I’m really proud of that. Most importantly, we are happy.
As a child I watched cartoons, sitcoms, and stand-up comedy
As an adult I studied psychology, anthropology, and speech
I always try to analyze how/why people are the way they are, so I could at least understand the “patterns”
Once I felt i understood something, it just became “part of life”, another thing to write stories, songs, and jokes about. I can make peace with it then…the rest is just not following the bad patterns
Its not a complete formula, but it’s done me so much good compared to “raging at everything” or “wallowing in sadness”