They are both annoying and wasting each other’s time. I think the amount matters here. I’ll snake 50 from my husband and he from me. We never had a full-on discussion about it, but most often, it’s him, and sometimes he’ll ask if I have cash. We were married over thirty years.

Had it been taking a large amount, then yes, there should be a discussion. She has lied to him from the beginning, overtly or by presenting herself as something she isn’t, he fell in love with that person. Now she’s pissed because that is who he wants.

I cringed over the way she berated him, like a child. Mature loving people would have discussed it, then established boundaries for the future. As I see it, his big mistake was lying. But then again, I get why…