Temeraire!

Slaughterhouse 5 resonated with me on a “someone else gets it” level, especially with things falling out of order and happening all at once, the passively resigned motto of “so it goes”, the avoiding the point for as long as possible until you can’t anymore.

The vimes disc world series is a comfort go-to, though I don’t know that was the intended emotion.

The Temeraire series by Naomi Novik. The vocabulary was hard to follow at times, but you’re right there with the characters in every emotional beat. It also captured the “dragon rider” concept in a way that most high fantasy just fails to do for me.