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  • Being mature and wise means knowing what you can and cannot control. You can’t control how other people act but you can control how you respond. Screaming is immature. Knowing when to leave is mature.

    Being mature and wise means knowing what you can an cannot control. You can’t control how other people act but you can control how you respond. Screaming is immature. Knowing when to leave is mature.

    This whole situation has been tough from the beginning. There was no indication it’d get better. Anyone who thinks a situation like that would get better is honestly very delusional.


  • That’s still not a healthy or appropriate way to respond. I’d understand a toddler doing that but as an adult it’s not acceptable.

    She has choices. She chose to continue to remain there and be treated that way.

    AGAIN, because this seems to be going over your head, she’d never have to scream if she just avoided and left these people. It’s completely avoidable. She’s not being held against her will.


  • Screaming is not going to do anything productive. It’s only going to make things worse for yourself and it enables the person you’re trying to reason with being able to justify that you’re the irrational one.

    I agree that the whole family is unbearable. That’s why if people treat you like that and there’s nothing you can do to make it better, remove yourself from them. There’s no need to make the situation worse. There was plenty of reason for her to leave even before they got married, it was obvious no one in that family has any intention of growing or changing for the better.


  • I do think she has valid concerns and issues, what’s causing more problems is her way of expressing those concerns. Especially the moment she’s challenged.

    When bringing up issues it should always be assumed a full back-and-forth discussion is needed and if you need a moment to think to counter something, take that moment. Don’t just break down and scream?

    But also, I get the frustration with not being heard. There’s a point where you just have to leave toxic people and situations like that. And if I were her, I’d have left way sooner.




  • LeadershipDesperate6@alien.topBtoBooksMost annoying trope?
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    1 year ago

    An unwed couple gets pregnant accidentally and the father dies before the child is born.

    There are two popular books from the past couple of years that did this and I just can’t respect them after they did that. And it added nothing to the actual message of the books.