Seeing yourself as a victim is the fastest way to become blind to your power and responsibilities. Yes, you’ve been treated badly and you feel alone. That sucks and I’m sorry. But you are not that sweet helpless kid anymore - you are a powerful grown-ass horse who can either continue to hurt himself and the people around him or figure out his shit. Be the grown-up you never got Bojack.

It also feels like foreshadowing after prom with those kids that when the girl has alcohol poisoning, he doesn’t want to take her to the hospital for fear of getting caught, and he only does because Pete Repeat insists.

And maybe it’s just a coincidence, but it seems interesting that this scenario (young girl passed out sick from a substance Bojack gave) repeats itself twice in the show, the first time with a character called Pete Repeat + this repetitions of 17. I think they writers really wanted to emphasize that Bojacks behaviour has been a pattern.

I absolutely agree that he is accountable even if we understand. And I think something the show was trying to show us was how systems of power can facilitate or even create a person like Bojack. In one of the episodes in rehab, he has a revelation about how because he’s rich and famous, he’s not made to face his behaviour (I forget the exact wording). And they bring this reality of Hollywoo and even capitalism up a lot (murder is legal for corporations remember). They really do a good job of showing how complicated morality is by telling this story if a man shaped by misfortune and abuse and then given power and prestige and put in situations that make him feel desperate and untouchable. And we sympathize and/or understand but are still asked to hold him accountable.

I think something that the writers of Bojack wanted to emphasize is that his behaviour was especially egregious because he had so much power. In the final season especially, they show us how his actions have major impacts on the lives of others, especially women/girls like his co-star from Philbert, Sarah-Lynn, and Penny. It’s hard to compare because Eleanor didn’t have as much power as a non-rich, non-famous woman, but we can compare how they used their power as adults over children: I think it’s significant that while Bojack used Sarah-Lynn and had a big part in her death, one of Eleanor’s few truly good moments of her life pre-death was treating her (niece?) kindly by taking her to the mall and getting churros.

And the fact is Bojack did have more power and abused it/failed to recognize it, and he’s accountable for that. So those are some of the reasons I think Bojack is “worse” than Eleanor.