That is true I hadn’t considered the visa part yet.
Still, I think given that what she DID know about SA, his house, and maybe just barely beforehand but beforehand none the less, financial issues, before they got married makes her more responsible. And he did tell her everything it just would never have mattered because she always kept this blank look on her face and focused on whatever part of those conversations she wanted to hear.
And it’s entirely possible she did have a change of heart and of course that doesn’t make her bad but again; she knew as much as anyone can going into a similar situation so she wasn’t blindsided. There was enough there to make an informed sound decision. The problem is she can’t make those decisions because she’s hung up on fairy tales and she has unrealistic expectations that will only set her up for disappointment . She expects happily ever after and is disappointed when life shows her that’s not possible it doesn’t exist. So it’s all how she chooses to accept that or not and make the best of it or not, or pack up her dybbuk box and her tarot cards and her tail, roll her hair up in a zip tie and hop a red eye back to Utah.
Well she really has no right to get mad at him at all for it, imo. And even if she DID, it sure is not what one would need to lead with when handling the situation with him. She can’t be mad cause she wasn’t around for that decision but she still decided to marry him so that’s marriage you take on each others bull shit.
And that’s adult life for you it’s predominantly bull shit challenges and set backs and struggles.