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  • needtosubmitasoul@alien.topBto90 Day FianceHolly's mommy
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    1 year ago

    I have friends who were born in SA (to clarify, I’m going to point out that they are from a white family because when you are talking about living in SA, especially about security & “feeling safe,” race does matter more to some.)

    With that said, it is honestly no more “super scary dangerous!” there than it is in parts of LA or parts of Chicago or even Miami, NY or Philly. Yeah, sure, some parts are rough. I live near Chicago. I frequent it. I was born just outside of Manhattan & was raised there. I know the city well. You want to make it in these cities? The same rules apply in all of them as do in SA.

    1. You keep your head and wits about you. Don’t do stupid shit. Don’t go staring people down while you’re walking or talk to strangers randomly.
    2. Keep aware of your surroundings.
    3. Don’t dress like a hooker & don’t dress like you’ve got cash dripping from you. Be smart about what you wear when you’re out.
    4. Don’t act like someone is going to come up and rob you and they likely won’t. People acting like victims are more likely to be victimized.

    You want friends to do things with and people to go places with? You’re going to have to make friends. Get involved in the community. Volunteer somewhere. Hell, you’re a beautician - put your skills to use and volunteer for seniors or shut-ins or orphanage. Take some initiative to try to make this work.

    Have you met your neighbors? Get your husband to introduce you to them.

    Learn a hobby.

    The more Holly sits and whines like a toddler about how “super scary” it is and then has her mom reinforce it over and over and over - the more she’s just getting it deeper and deeper into her mind that she’s locked in a jail and can’t do anything without Wayne. It’s a jail entirely of her own making. I have zero sympathy for her. She holds the keys to her cell and could easily open the door and walk out.

    She sure as hell wasn’t too awful scared of the big and scary South Africa when she walked barefoot! to get away from him when they went to look at the real estate places she wanted to upgrade to before the wedding!

    It’s only super scary when she wants to whine about it.