I’ve been trying to introduce my SO to reading. I love books and I wish I could share in that experience with her. Unfortunately she doesn’t read and hates having to do it. She is vehement in that books are boring because there’s nothing to watch and that using her imagination is too much work. Her reading comprehension or vocabulary is not the issue - she’s intelligent and a fast learner but denies these things. This hasn’t been a serious contention between us and at the end of the day I can enjoy books on my own. But I was wondering if anyone has been successful in changing someone’s perspective on books, or if I’m probably not going to achieve anything.
Not everybody has to enjoy the same thing; though she does seem stubborn to try considering that her argument that imagination is hard work seems silly. But it’s possible she doesn’t draw mental pictures well in her head and consequently that is where she is coming from. There is possibly a level of doubt she has for herself because she doesn’t “get” the visuals books describe.
One thing you could try is to incorporate reading as a “together” activity where you two may take turns reading a book aloud to each other. By making it something you and her can do together then perhaps you can engage her both in books and your relationship that way.
Tangent to books, broaching this subject can sometimes come across as a personal attack on people since they is an attitude being a bookworm can possess for some people. Sometimes trying to encourage reading can appear as though you are subjecting your “superior” hobby to someone because they are “dumb”. Just be mindful how you engage her in the discussion.