Honestly, most days I’m agreeing with what Danielle is saying when it comes to finances, but the most recent episode (13/11/23) when Danielle asks Yohan to pay half the rent, plus bills etc. I think was super unfair. She has an American job, which pays American wages. Yohan is/was working for Dominican wages.
When Yohan said if he contributes the same he will have nothing left for himself. And I agree with him (if these facts are true)
In my personal opinion, I think financial contributions should be split by % of income. My partner (33M) contributes more to our household because he earns more. If I (29F) contribute the same, I wouldn’t have any personal savings or extra money for myself. When I was earning more, I was contributing to the household more. It goes both ways…
I missed that part and it totally changes my attitude toward the situation. Plus, they’re living in that expensive ass apartment bc it’s her standard of living. I do hate the way he talks to her, though. He’s terrible at expressing himself in healthy ways.
Except that his standard of living is to OWN a house AND buy another one to rent out at piss poor rates.
Maybe the house that he wants to buy is cheaper than the rent of the fancy apartment.
That’s his aspiration. Before he moved in with her, he lived with his family. I wouldn’t feel this way, but I can at least wrap my head around being mad that he’s working multiple jobs to rent an apartment she wants, while all his wants are dismissed. I wonder (maybe yes, maybe no) if he would feel differently if he were working two jobs to pay a mortgage instead of just rent. Maybe in his mind that would at least be building something.
And don’t forget owning a CAR.