This lady was an absent mother to her child and left him with the trauma of growing up without a protective/loving mother. He adapted and grew up accordingly. They have a very limited relationship now. She has no place shitting on his current relationship because she dislikes the way Mary treats him. This is some major dysfunctional projection.
Also, Brandan made some comment that he hopes Mary is nice to his mom and doesn’t trigger any sort of relapse. Mary should not have to walk on eggshells or put up with his mom’s nasty attitude because his mom has an addiction.
Also, her comments about the Phillipines and the poverty made her look like such an ignorant, arrogant American. I doubt she made an effort or took any interest to learn anything about the culture or language prior to her visit - even though her grandchild is from there.
I would cut her slack if she and Brandan were really close and/or she had been a supportive mother to him. But literally all she brings to the table in his life is negativity. She failed him as a mom, and now she seems to want Mary to let him down as well.
Everybody sucks here.
Brandan is a child.
Mary is a child.
Brandan’s mom is in recovery, which in itself is great, but does not speak to them having a foundation of trust to build from.
I agree with his mom that they’re terrible for each other, but he isn’t going to accept it coming from her, at this point. They should not have been in a relationship, shouldn’t be getting married, and for damn sure shouldn’t be having a kid, but all of those things seem to be in motion. The way she’s going about it isn’t helping, but watching your kid ruin their future for no good reason has to be hard to watch.