When Jazmine was explaining her abandonment issues and their origins I’ve never felt so validated. She explained that she was abandoned by her father and that he made very sure to let her know how much her existence was regretted as a mistake… can relate to a similar later life experience.
When she said “when someone as close as your own father doesn’t love you… how can you ever believe any man would or could love you…?”
She also explained that what her dad had done had messed with her mind her entire life. Thanks for being honest Jazmine. I see you.
I see you ♥️ right there with you. People use “abandonment issue” so flippantly that they don’t realize that having a crisis over perceived abandonment (for those that deal with this issue) is literally like your brain regresses to a time in development where being left alone meant literal death (eg. a baby that cannot fend for themselves ) - the reaction looks so over the top and ridiculous because it’s as if in that moment she is 1-4 years old … because in that moment she literally is
That moment made me cry as well. Never knew my real dad. My stepdad never wasted an opportunity to tell me how unwanted, odd, fat, dumb and unlovable I was.
Cue a history of garbage relationships where I allowed men to treat me terribly because I thought that’s the best I could ever hope for.
Living in an environment of constant criticism programs you in strange ways. For me, it impacted my work. I tend to overreact to criticism. Not to the level of Jasmine.
It took me 50 years to come to these realizations. Hopefully Jasmine will get therapy and heal her past.